REKONSTRUKSI MAKNA FAẒFAR BI DHĀT AL-DĪN MELALUI TEORI MUBĀDALAH DI DUSUN DENGOK PACIRAN LAMONGAN

Abstract

Everyone has different criteria when it comes to choosing a life partner. In the Sunan Al-Darimi, index number 2216, the Prophet mentioned four good criteria to consider: religion, appearance, wealth, and lineage. The issue arises when this hadith is understood only textually, implying that men have the authority to choose a partner while women do not. Therefore, it becomes interesting to examine the meaning of this hadith using the Mubadalah theory. This study employs a qualitative method, using the Sunan al-Dārimī as the primary source. The research becomes even more intriguing as it includes a case study of several communities in Dengok village, Lamongan, where the tradition of women proposing to men first is still practiced. The findings of this research show that the hadith in Sunan al-Dārimī, index number 2216, is authentic and can be used as a valid argument. Some communities in Dengok village, Lamongan, practice the tradition of women proposing to men for various reasons, one of which is the belief that men are the breadwinners of the family. When this tradition is linked to the hadith in Sunan al-Dārimī, index number 2216, and its meaning is reconstructed using the Mubādalah theory, it can be justified. A strong argument for this is that the Prophet Muhammad (SAW) himself was once proposed to by a woman named Siti Khadijah.